I'm discovering more and more each day the truth to this statement. I think that the key to happiness with another person is being realistic with your expectations of that person. If you want to believe the fairy tale that you will meet Mr or Mrs Perfect and live happily ever after, you are in for a big surprise. That person simply does not exist. I believe that the key to being happy with someone is to find someone who shares as many of your values and interests as possible, and then accept the fact that they are only human and so are you.
You aren't going to find Prince or Princess Charming. Be patient, truthful, and realistic in your expectations with your partner. Find a partner. Find a partner who you are the most compatible with and make it your absolute top priority to make that person feel loved the way that they need and deserve to be loved. Make them feel like your Prince or Princess Charming each and every day without fail, and I believe that you will know true love. I believe that true love is something earned and built over time. Not something that you fall into.
I'd love to play the part of the Romantic and throw caution to the wind, but I have been married and divorced. Unfortunately, I became a part of the ever growing statistic. Now I'm 30, and I get to start all over again. Joy. Only now I come as a two-for-one package deal. I have a beautiful, smart, and funny little girl who is 4. She is the center and focus of my life right now, and I couldn't possible ask for a better child.
Now I am finding out that dating when you are a single parent, can be a lot more complicated than I anticipated. As a single parent, you still need to put your child first. As long as I am single, Preslie will be my priority in life, and will always come first. If I ever re-marry, my Wife will have to come first of course. But that does not mean that my little Angel will be any less important to me. I think that it is more important for her to see her Father love and treat his Wife like his Queen, and treat her like his Princess. I hope that makes sense.
Reality can be tough sometimes, but I am making the most of it. I refuse to give up and let my past shape me. I am excited for what the future holds for us and am looking forward to tomorrow.
See you there.
I couldn't agree more about the true love comment above-something that stuck with me that I heard once is "Love comes softly" and every day I'm finding out more and more that it's true.
ReplyDeleteLove isn't instantaneous. There is no such thing as love at first sight. Lust at first sight, yes-but Love, love takes work. You find someone who shares some of the same qualities, is interested in who you really are, and willing to be honest with you and then you give it a chance to see where it goes from there. Love has to be cultivated and worked on-and eventually it blossoms and you find that you have "true love" after all.
Sorry-just my opinion on the matter and I thought I'd leave it here. Nice post. :)